We live in a very educated world. Answers to so many questions are easily at our fingertips. We can learn and understand so many aspects of the world around us and ourselves. There are so many variables that come into play when trying to sort out various circumstances, opinions, and viewpoints. If we get into a tricky situation, it is so easy to back up our decisions and our position with data and support. Not only that, but if you want validation for it, you can have it instantly.
Receiving validation can set us at ease but does nothing to propel anyone forward. Coming from a person who has unhealthily used social media to seek out value love and self-worth, I can say that it is short lived, and you will find yourself repeating whatever behaviors you can to feed the monster. The monster is lazy and goes nowhere.
Sometimes life doesn't pan out. People hurt us. We are victims of terrible TERRIBLE circumstances. I am not a therapist by ANY means, and some of these situations I have no grounds to speak on whatsoever, but if there is anything we can possibly do to better our sorry situations, shouldn't we try? What if we gave all our accusations and explanations and excuses a rest? Can we take extreme ownership of our problems? It may feel unfair or unjust to have to be the one to set something right when it wasn't our fault or responsibility.
Waiting around for someone or something else to make it right has a high probability of leaving you waiting around bitter for the rest of your life. If you want something to change, OWN IT. Take the circumstance, the person, the limitations and eliminate it from the combination. I'm not trying to say that excuses setbacks and responsible 3rd parties don't exist, but a victim mentality is also a very real enemy. Choosing to take ownership gives you back some power. You get to choose how you want to move forward. Pointing a finger gets you nowhere. If you're in charge, what's your next move? Is there something that you can change? Can you change your mind? Can you apologize? Is there someone who can help you? Stop pointing fingers at everyone and everything else. Let's get into a new habit of turning the finger around and seeing the truth of what we lack and how we can change for the better.
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